Tuesday, July 7, 2009

9 Months


While it is cliche, there are certainly some things that I did not expect about parenthood. One was the total paranoia that would grip me after Jillian's birth about my ability to actually be a parent, which seemed to stem from a combination of sleep deprivation, hormones and adrenaline. Another has been my bittersweet enjoyment of watching her grow. Before I had just assumed that the passing of every month (eventually year) and the achievement of every milestone would be met with great excitement. And really that has been true. What I did not expect was that I would also feel a tinge of sadness with every change. She was just born, and now all of the sudden she is nine months old. Almost a year old! That tiny, snuggly baby is quickly becoming a whirlwind of energy and motion. Suddenly, I understand why parents have so much difficulty standing back and letting their kids grow up.

She began crawling just before the 8 month mark, and ever since then she has become a complete whirlwind. She has gained such speed that it is difficult to stop her before she reaches her destination, which is invariably a power cord or dog food. We bought a couple sections of baby fence and built a baby pasture in our living room, but that undertaking has been met with mixed success. While toys may keep her occupied for a couple minutes, she KNOWS that dog food and those power cords are out there and that the man is keeping her down by placing her within the confines of the fence. This leads to crying, which may be soothed by picking her up but it is not long before she wants down to seek out those forbidden pleasures. Ultimately a temper tantrum ensues. I had never before thought it possible for such a young baby to throw a fit of frustration. If I had, I most certainly would have built the baby pasture before she crawled so that she would never have known that such things even existed.

Walking, it seems, is just around the corner. We bought a push toy for her and she can walk behind it with a wobbly competence. This past month she has become quite skilled in pulling herself up on any object. At first it was just on things with bars that could be gripped. But she can climb to a standing position next to any flat surface such as sliding glass doors, cabinets and in the bathtub. She can also now climb an entire flight of stairs with astounding proficiency.

When I think of her personality, the words that come to mind are determination and fearlessness. At our friends house on the 4th, I placed her in their walker in the kitchen. The French doors were opened to the deck, and Jillian wanted out there. Because the threshhold of the doorway was raised, the walker would get hung up and stop. Rather than give up, Jillian would back-up and ram the door way again harder and harder (and nearly tipping the walker over with her force) until she got all the way out on to the deck. I am sure that I will appreciate these qualities when she is older, but right now it makes the job of keeping her safe rather difficult.

She babbles, screams and screeches all day long, but is not much of a giggler unless you sing to her. Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star has been her past favorite, and she'll sometimes open and close her hands in the twinkle motion. Recently, Head Shoulders Knees and Toes has emerged as a new contender, and she starts cracking up as I go faster, faster and faster. Her favorite syllable is "da, da, da" and she seems to be starting to make a connection between the sound dada and Jeramy. Oh and daddy does remain her favorite person. If he comes into a room and then abruptly leaves, it is often met by her tears which usually can be quickly alleviated by a verse or two of the aforementioned songs. Teeth remain elusive, but I am not worried as I was a late bloomer in the teeth department as well. This has not prevented us from introducing finger foods though, as she most happily consumes a wide variety of items from mum mums to gerber puffs to oranges (mostly sucking out all the juice) to grilled cheese sandwiches. She has also discovered that the sippy cup is more than just a fun toy to chew on and throw but a container of liquid she can drink! She isn't quite ready to drink from it full-time, but I'm hopeful we can get there by the one year mark.

Sleep has generally been getting better, and she usually gets 8 to 10 hours straight per night. Occasionally she'll still wake up wanting a bottle around 2 or 3am, but she'll go right back to sleep even if slightly awake when I put her in the crib. Most of the time falling asleep can be a challenge and she'll wake up once or twice in that first hour needing to be rocked back to sleep. The middle of the night pacifier cries have become much rarer. She's not a terrific napper and when she naps and for how long varies greatly from day to day. In fact we have nothing even remotely close to a schedule going on. I don't want to force my MIL to enforce one during the week, because she has been providing free child care while Jeramy works on the house and also has a 3 year old to chase after. Plus we are really on the go during the weekends making it quite impossible to impose a schedule when I am at home as well. As she generally goes to bed between 7pm - 9pm and sleeps until 5am - 7 am and sneaks in a sufficient number of naps to be tolerably agreeable, I am not overly worried about the whole thing.

Jeramy took Jillian to her 9 month appointment this afternoon, and her measurements were as follows:

Height: 27.5" (50th percentile)

Weight: 19 lbs (50th percentle)

Head: 18.75" (100th percentile)

So she remains perfectly average except for that enormous head.

And for photographic evidence of all this progress, I offer the following:



Monday, July 6, 2009

4th of July Weekend

It's amazing how quickly a three day weekend can fly by. With so much to cover, bullets seems the best approach.
  • I've acquired yet another bug from Jillian. Last year I was sick, maybe once. This year, it seems like just as soon as I feel better, something new hits me. That wouldn't have anything to do with having a baby in the house would it? The real problem is that Jillian is so damn kissable and huggable that I can't resist her even when I know she's a complete germ factory.
  • Continuing in my trend of absent-mindedness I locked my keys in vehicles twice this weekend. The first time, Jeramy had to ride his motorcycle all the way into Seattle (about a 45 minute drive) to let me in. At least the second time was the truck, and I was able to call Onstar to unlock the doors.
  • Watching Kaycie on Thursday night turned out to be a breeze. Rather than creating twice the work, I found that two babies actually keep each other entertained. I even decide to venture bathtime with the two of them, which was the cutest thing ever as giggling abounded. (Note that Jillian's ooooh expression seems to be the one of choice these days...well that or hand in mouth).

  • After a relaxing day at home on Friday, we dropped her off with Jeramy's mom and stepdad for an overnight so that we could go to the Green Day concert. I was really looking forward to a whole night with just my hubby, as the only other time she's slept away from home was during our move. And of course changing out a water heater at 11pm only to wake-up again by 6am doesn't exactly count as date night. We enjoyed our time thoroughly at the concert.

  • To celebrate the 4th we went to our friend's Jeff and Jenny's house for a BBQ. Their daughter, Becky, and Jillian were born just nine days apart. It's so fun to see them together now that they are able to play. We've informed the girls that they have no choice but to be friends. In return we receive blank stares. I'm surprised that Jillian did so well all evening considering that she only got a 15 minute nap between 5 and 11pm. She was just about to crash when we went outside after dark for the pretty fireworks. All of the loud noise and sparkles were pretty exciting for her.

  • Rather than sleep in my vanpool, I have been trying to use that time to read. I've finally read an actual non-baby related book for the first time since Jillian was born. It was A Thousand Splendid Suns, which is the sequel to the Kite Runner. While fiction, I feel like both books provide a glimpse into a culture that I have no real understanding of. What was especially great about this sequel is that told the story from a feminine perspective and their helplessness given the circumstances was at times overwhelming. In the end it was bittersweet, and I highly recommend it.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

What a Night

I really wish I were a better driver. Remember this back in August when I was like super pregnant? Well somehow I've managed yet again to cause another accident. Why is it that I can be so competent in so many aspects of my life and yet be the shittiest driver I know? This time I tried to switch lanes to get around a stalled bus but did not see a mini-van. I know I looked, but somehow I did not see an entire van. Am I blind or something? The damage was a little worse than last incident; it was enough to report to insurance. Luckily the guy was very nice, we got off the road quickly and no police report was filed so I do not have to worry about a ticket.

While I was upset, I was not nearly as emotional over this accident as the last one. Last time I cried all evening long, but perhaps that was really due to the pregnancy hormones. I'm pissed off at myself, but more than anything I was upset over having to miss my knitting group (that's where I was headed) which I hadn't been to in months and months. I'm in serious need of some kid-free time.

Here is the damage. It is a little difficult to see since the pictures were taken by cell phone. Basically denting and scratching to my front driver's side and his rear passenger side plus scratching on his rim. Honestly, I'm kind of surprised that the damage wasn't a lot worse given how I hit him.

The rest of the evening wasn't so great either. Jillian has a bad cold with a cough that has only gotten worse and worse. After reporting the incident to my insurance, Jeramy decided to go to Wal-Mart to buy formula while I put Jillian (who was on her 5th or 6th wind) to sleep. I was successful and put her in the swing so that she'd be upright and sleep better. Well 20 minutes later I heard her crying, and when I went into the room she began coughing and then puking. I got her out of her swing and on to the changing table where she puked even more. Luckily Jeramy arrived home at that very moment, and he helped me get her cleaned up. He then rocked her back to sleep but it took a while as she was coughing a lot and very restless. We think it was just the coughing that caused the puking because she has been fine since then and she has a rather sensitive stomach.

I'm sure today will be better. Wait I'm getting a cavity filled and then watching a friend's 18 month old tonight so that Jeramy could get a guys night out since I was getting my girls night last night (or maybe not).

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Wordless Wednesday


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Monday, June 29, 2009

Support Ovarian Cancer Research

*Updated to fix the link below*

I joined a team from my work participating in the Swedish SummeRun on July 26th (I'm participating in the 5K walk component). Ovarian cancer, while less common than breast cancer, is a very deadly disease. The symptoms are subtle, meaning that many women do not discover they have it until it is too late. Much less financial support has been provided to research of this cancer because it is less common than breast cancer.

If you'd like to support me, my website is here.

Friday, June 26, 2009

RIP Michael Jackson

Back in the mid-80's around the time when Thriller was cool, our cat Samantha had kittens. Of course my sister, Jaime, and I named all six. Our favorite was a fluffy little orange kitty, and we named him Michael Jackson. We were probably about 5 and 7 years old and loved watching MTV with our babysitter. We mastered the moon walk and made up dance routines to all our favorite songs, and if you get me really drunk and play Madonna's Like a Virgin or Def Leppard's Pour Some Sugar on Me, I might show you some of our moves.

Mom allowed us to keep Michael Jackson as we could never bear to part with at least one kitty from a litter (that is the foundation for crazy cat ladies, I know). Sadly, a short time later, he disappeared and we were told that he must have ran away. Skip forward twenty years. We're at a family dinner talking about our long-lost kitty, when my dad says, "oh you mean the kitten that our neighbor Kevin ran over?" That's right folks. Our parents lied to us all these years and Michael Jackson was really dead. I nearly cried.

I am not really going anywhere with this, other than to say that the music of the mid-80's really impacted my childhood for better or more likely for worse. And MJ, I'm sorry you had such a rough life and became a crazy pedophile. But that whole Thriller video was really cool.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

I Prefer Babies who are Immobile

Other moms get excited when their babies crawl. Not me. Why you ask?

Well a crawling baby loves dog food. They love all cords. They love laptop computers. They love newspaper. They love to put these things in their mouth.

Crawling babies love to smack their heads on hardwood floors and then howl until you comfort them. Then they get big bruises for the world to see what a crappy parent you are. Then they do it all again 5 minutes later.

When you pick up the crawling baby they knock your can of diet coke off the counter. Because they love cans. Then you have to clean up the sticky pop with a towell with your foot because you cannot put the crawling baby on the floor because you don't want them covered in diet coke.

Crawling babies discover the dog door. They start playing with the flap. Pretty soon they'll be escaping through it causing you to have to seal it off. Which in turn upsets the already downtrodden dog who lost his place as baby of the family and who can no longer access his food because it is covered by a laundry basket.

Crawling babies like baby toys. But even more fun are dog toys. Like disgustingly dirty stuffed animals and pig hoofs. They also like to put these things in their mouths.

Crawling babies like to make it impossible for their parents to get anything done because they must divert attention from some life-threatening activity to a safe one about once every minute.

About the only thing worse than a crawling baby is a walking baby, because then they can reach about a foot higher.